Many of us have had to learn the hard way that even if you might be able to mediate a conflict, it’s not always the easiest thing. That’s why we’ve put together this blog post about frequently asked questions about mediating neighbor disputes. So whether you’re considering becoming an arbitrator or are just looking for common problems and solutions, stick around! You’ll find all kinds of helpful information right here.
It can be tough to determine the best course of action to solve a dispute when your neighbor is unreasonable. Do you give it a try and hope they don’t throw you through your front door? Try talking to them face to face, but watch out for flying fists? There’s no one-size-fits-all approach, but as someone who has been in this situation before, I can tell you that mediation is often the best solution. Mediation allows both parties to have their say and for one or both of you to find common ground and mutual respect.
Maybe. Let’s say a neighbor is failing to keep her yard neat, keeping loud noises up late at night, and letting people pee in the front yard. You are fed up with it; soon, you will call the authorities if she doesn’t change her ways. But you want to try and work this out before going to the authorities. In this case, mediation is an option. You can tell the neighbor that these things have to improve, or you will have to report them. If they do not, you still have recourse to go further if you want.
If you are having trouble coming up with a mediation agreement that both of you will accept and make sense to each of you, here are some suggestions. First, if you can agree by talking through the issues face-to-face, your mediator may better understand how both of you feel. However, let’s say that neither of you wants to put in the effort or time necessary for a face-to-face meeting.
If your neighbor violates your agreement, there are some steps you can take to rectify the situation. Your mediation agreement should spell out precisely what will happen if either of you violates it. The reasons for violating it may include getting a pet that you said was not allowed (or possibly agreeing not to get a pet), not keeping the noise down, or allowing graffiti on the walls of your house.
By now, you should be feeling much more confident about how to approach a neighbor’s dispute and make sure that it’s resolved as quickly and efficiently as possible. Remember that mediation is a way to dialogue with a neighbor in which both neighbors listen to each other and try to come up with a solution that the two of you can live with.